Why we don’t like the nice guy

 

What is a good guy? What is your definition of a good man? To ME a good man is someone who is God fearing, loving, respectful, loyal, open, communicates, understands, honest, compromising, responsible, interesting, smart, funny, family oriented, maybe romantic, attractive to me and driven. So why don’t we want men like this? Why do we want men that disrespect us and treat us bad? 

HERES THE TRUTH: we DO want good men. Period, point blank. We do but what we often times come across is people we don’t have good chemistry with. Having good chemistry has nothing to do with him as a man or you as a woman. Chemistry is something that comes naturally. It’s not something you can control. It has to just be THERE. If you’re not vibing then you’re just not. Are we supposed to force ourselves to be with someone we don’t vibe with because he’s a good man? No. because what will that relationship lead to? 

Attraction; I spoke about attraction in my last blog post and here’s the deal.. you simply cannot be with someone you’re not attracted to. It’s not picking looks over the quality of the man. It’s not that at all. But again you can’t force yourself to be with someone you’re not attracted to. How can you even fathom being with someone you don’t want to kiss because they are just not good looking to you? You can’t and you shouldn’t feel bad about not doing it either. Nobody can choose the man for you. 

Standards: I said my list of standards right? So what about a “good” guy that doesn’t meet everything? Do you sacrifice somethings you want for this good man? Sometimes, YES. Depending on what it is. But you have to decide if what they lacks is worth trying in a relationship. For example, he can be everything I want then find out he doesn’t believe in God… now what? He gots to go! I can’t be with anybody that doesn’t believe in God. But that’s just me, it could be different for you. 
In conclusion, I wanna talk about how nice guys can be not so nice once they get rejected. A guy can seem real cool and you’re getting to know him and see he’s a really nice guy but then you realize that y’all just don’t have THAT chemistry… so you tell him that you’re not feeling it anymore and he gets mad and shows his entire behind… how is he a good guy still?